Don’t let your ego get in the way of your success

Success is not about being the best, it’s about being YOUR best.

You weren’t meant to compete, you were meant to contribute.

But that’s not typically what we hear in life, is it?

We are told that you have to fight to get to the top and then do whatever it takes to stay there. It’s dog-eat-dog, step on the little guys, and claw your way to the top. Then you’ll be happy and satisfied.


That’s what I call a “competition mindset”  and it’s an ego trap.

Your significance becomes tied to how well you can outdo the guy (or company) next to you, and most of the time it limits your success.

That’s because it’s built on a lie. Remember? Success is not about being the best, it’s about being YOUR best.

Instead of trying to keep up with your nearest competitor, maybe you should step out of the fray and reevaluate YOUR unique calling.

Stop trying to fit into a mold someone else created for you. Stop trying to prove something (to others or to yourself). The truth is that you’ve got nothing to prove, only someone unique to be.

Why not try living (or working) to fit the mold that your Creator has designed for YOU? You’ll find significance, meaning, fulfillment, and that the you that you are is designed especially to contribute in ways that only you can.

When you can do this, there’s no ego to get in your way… only a desire to do your utmost for His highest (somebody should write a book by that name!).


  1. Another great post Carey! Reminds me of the lyrics of two favorite songs:
    “Empty me of me and fill me with you.”
    “…Fall on my knees, so it’s you that they see, Jesus you be lifted high.”

  2. This is something that’s quite difficult for me. On the Clifton Strengthsfinder test, competition is my number one strength. It’s just the way I’m wired in my flesh – to be extremely competitive. Adapting this strength to a godly mindset is still something I’m working on.

    • Agreed Loren… it’s hard, but Christ (who lives in us) can produce it through us. That’s the good news. God, who is love (who lives in us) can produce love instead of competition.

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